Caregiving during the holidays can be stressful, and even filled with anger and frustration. However, there are ways to make it easier to get into the holiday cheer. Take a moment to reflect on the rewards your loved one is receiving from your caregiving. Your attention and time are a gift you are giving and you should feel a high sense of worth and generosity for all that you do. While it may often seem your sacrifice goes unappreciated, or that other family members haven’t contributed as much as you, it’s important to look at what you have done and take pleasure in knowing that you deserve your own reward for your sacrifice. If you feel resentful towards family members, push those feelings back and tell yourself that you can address that issue after the holidays. You want to enjoy the time as much as possible and take advantage of the holiday spirit around you.
If your family has asked what you would like for the holidays, make a wish list of things such as some time off from your responsibilities, or someone to attend to various things such as going through small minor repairs for the house, or cleaning out a closet. See if anyone can offer practical help such as doing some grocery shopping for you when they go the store. Ask for a gift certificate to a spa or a hair salon so you can pamper yourself a bit. You deserve some time for self indulgence since you’ve been giving so much of yourself. You need relief from too little time and too much stress and having a respite for even a day will make a significant difference.
The holidays are meant to be filled with sharing, thankfulness and happiness. Be thankful for who you are and what you do. Be happy that you can give what you give, and share the love so you can feel the love throughout the season.